Fellas & Fashions: Skin is not in

Via Dawn Eden:

A friend notes the following in a recent Philadelphia Inquirer article where a reporter quizzed men about their opinions on women's fashions:

Anything too tight (cut down on the cleavage, girls) and lots of makeup made the list, too. But we think the guys who said that were trying to be politically correct. After all, we've all seen the heads turn when a girl in clinging britches walks by.

Note the fundamental disconnect between the reporter's expectations and the men's answers. The reporter assumes that because men look at women who show cleavage and wear tight clothes, men find those women more attractive than women who dress modestly. Her assumption is that men only want what (never mind who) makes them stare. [Read more here.]

My Comments:

Interesting: Capris top the hate list and men love dresses .

The majority of men are going to look at a woman who is scantily dressed - that's normal, but that doesn't mean they like women who dress that way in public. I look at women who are scantily dressed and say a prayer for them. Why? Because they are making spectacles of themselves and they are tempting the man to sin - to have impure thoughts and to commit impure actions. It also sends out the message that they don't have any respect for themselves. They appear desperate for attention. It's sad when someone thinks they have to dress this way in order to be appreciated or to be loved. Usually women who do so have low self-esteem and haven't been educated in the areas of modesty and chastity.

In my experiences as a psychologist and as a crisis pregnancy counselor, I have observed that these women tend to come from broken, single parent homes, where the parent did not properly educate the child (in faith or sexuality). Often, the child imitates the parent in immodest dress and behavior and neither seem to know any better. I have also noticed that there is often no faith practised in the home and most have no church community or strong family ties.

Real men like real women who show respect for themselves and their bodies. To me, dresses and skirts make a woman appear more dignified and feminine. They express self-confidence and contentment with one's sexuality. Isn't is great to feel comfortable with the sexuality with which God has blessed you?

Any comments, ladies and gents?

Comments

  1. Well said, Jean. Women who dress in tight, clingy clothes or in those capris that hang down around their hips, showing their crack, or wear those tops which show everthing but their nipples are CRUDE, not cool. It's pretty bad when you see both parent and child dressed that way. So many people haven't a clue as to what modesty is.

    One friend of mine asked her 8th grade CCD class of girls what it meant and not one could define it and most had never heard the word before. And, of course all your TV and movie celebrities and your fashion and media moguls are out to promote whatever sells and makes money for them. They could care less about Christian morality.

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  2. I have ground rules for my daughters on what they are permitted to wear and have explained to them the reasons for this. If more parents would do this with teenage daughters and enforce the rules, there would be less immodesty.

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  3. Good observations. I like that you say a prayer for the women who dress immodestly. I think that even though men can't help but look at a woman who is flaunting everything, doesn't mean that he approves of the dress.

    Wasn't it St. Elizabeth, Queen of Portugal who dressed up only for her husband, and when he was away she wore very plain clothes so as not to attract attention to herself?

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  4. I totally agree. It's a disease of our culture that young girls feel that the ONLY thing they have to offer is their sexuality, that it's a "requirement" for being cool. And it's extremely unfortunate that our media is driving the train, pushing sexual ideas and behavior onto kids at younger and younger ages.

    In a world with thong underwear in child's size 6x and 8 year old cartoon characters who have girl/boyfriends, what's a parent to do?

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